Dating…

Being newly single as of May 2018, I have recently gotten back into the dating game. Not going to lie, dating is different than what I remembered it to be and it is HARD! It’s hard to find people who take you seriously and to also find consistency when it comes to dating people. Without further ado, here are my thoughts on dating.

I’ll be honest, I use dating apps to meet guys to go on dates with. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been on dates with people I met first in real life, but dating apps are just more convenient. You can choose who you want to meet and find common interests before you actually meet them. Although, the worst part about meeting people on dating apps is actually meeting them in person. You can be one person behind a screen but completely different in person. I’ve met guys who are super cool over the app but when I meet them in person they are very… let’s say bland. However, that doesn’t stop me from meeting people because I’m an extroverted introvert that enjoys meeting new people… When I feel like it.

During the date, you have to keep up the conversation. That can be hard sometimes, but I like to consider myself an open book so you can ask me anything when you first meet me and I will give you an honest answer. But some people aren’t like that, which is understandable but hard. If you meet someone who is like that then you don’t want to cross that line with them by asking them questions like “so who did you vote for?” or “why the hell are you single?” Stuff like that doesn’t sit well with people. Don’t let that keep you from being yourself, because if they don’t appreciate who you truly are then you don’t need them in your life. Easy as that.

After you meet that person you have to like sit around and figure out if you text them first or do they even want to talk to you. I feel like I get like this because I don’t like having my time wasted, so if you say “Hey I had a great time, we definitely should do this again soon,” then I’m going to take that seriously and for you to hit me up. And if you are the type of person that says stuff like that and never gets in touch with them again, then just be honest with them in the first place. Don’t play games.

If you do end up going on a second date, it should be less awkward and a bit more exciting. Whatever you do though don’t let the first or second date be a movie because how can you get to know someone while being quiet in a dark theater. You can’t, that’s why. Do something where you’re able to have a conversation with them, like mini golf or dinner. Just be yourself and maybe ask questions that you might’ve been holding back to ask on the first date.

Also if they make a move, don’t be ashamed to make a move back. Fuck what society says and go as far as you want on the first or second date. If you know what I mean. And if you’re not comfortable with kissing or doing anything else past kissing, then that’s also completely fine because dating is all about being yourself and being comfortable with that person.

Well those are my thoughts on dating. Getting to know someone and meeting people is hard so I totally get it. But when you put yourself out there in new dating situations, it really opens new opportunities for yourself. Thank you for reading this and if you have any topic ideas for my next post please leave me a comment to let me know. I’m always ears to hear new ideas.